Vivienne is our first baby who is attached to a pacifier and a blanket. Both of the boys had a blanket they liked, but didn't have to have it to sleep. Despite my efforts - neither of them would take a pacifier. It definitely wasn't from lack of trying! (Chase did NOT like riding in the car during his first 6 months. Those were some long trips!)
The boys had a blanket and stuffed animal they snuggled with - and so did Loe. Ren has Teddy. Her bear has played a major roll in her life since we sent it to her in China...she still takes it EVERYWHERE and sleeps with it every night. He is very well loved. :)
Vivi took to her pacifiers right from the start in the hospital. For months - even until she was over a year old - she just needed it to fall asleep. Which meant every time she woke up she needed it. (Who ever invented glow-in-the-dark pacifiers...pure brilliance!)
Vivi loves to rub the satin edge of her blanket on her face. We have a few lighter, thinner blankets with satin and she'll tolerate them if THE blankie isn't around. But, he much prefers this big, thick, heavy blanket. Ugh! Not so great in the summer heat!
Despite the other blankets, she simply must have her "blankie & pacio" when she is feeling emotionally distraught. No clue where that twist on paci came from - but it's cute so it stuck. And the girl has gone from needing it only to sleep - to wanting it off and on through out the day, especially if she gets hurt, is tired or is emotional in any way. She loses it until these precious items can be located and brought to her. (Which means we have several pacios scattered around for times such as this.) Yep...she's a tad spoiled. But, unless you've heard this girl scream or have witnessed the meltdowns...don't judge me!
We learned and were reminded of many great pieces of information at the Orphan Summit. One was how some children from hard places (which can include babies adopted at birth who endured a stressful pregnancy...and let's face it any pregnancy in which a birth mom chooses to make an adoption plan for her baby is most likely stressful one) can really benefit from proprioceptive activity. Chewing gum, pushing, pulling, climbing - using muscles & joints in a resistance-type/active engagement activities. Since she is a toddler it's hard to know if she is cutting molars, being needy or perhaps it is because it helps to calm her. (She does chew on it as well!)
Since Vivi is not yet two, she is fairly high maintenance and we think she will be our last baby - we aren't too concerned about her attachment to her blankie and pacio at this point. And in fact I think she's rather irresistible when she grabs them and asks to "nuggle". Actually I LOVE it! And as my mom always says, "This, too, shall pass." Granted...we may be working hard to help it pass in a year, but for now - they bring peace and quiet and good snuggles!